Hi 👋 and welcome to Elfina’s weekend edition. This week, we break down a collection of moments from Chandler Bing’s fear of commitment from Friends.

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🪞 Throughout Friends, Chandler's fear of commitment shows up in many ways — from sabotaging relationships to pushing people away when things get serious. Chandler’s actions reflect a deeper fear of vulnerability and getting hurt.

💭 Elfina lens: Chandler’s emotional defense mechanism is self-sabotage. He avoids closeness because he’s scared of being vulnerable. What helps him is emotional support - especially from Monica, who sees through his walls and loves him for who he truly is. While Chandler never seeks formal therapy, his emotional growth happens through learning to trust and open up, slowly breaking down the walls he built to protect himself. This is an example of how emotional safety, understanding, and unconditional love can be powerful tools for personal growth.

🧠 Questions for reflection: Do you notice yourself pulling away when relationships start to get serious? See you with another tidbit next Tuesday!